![]() Is there an answer? Well, self-awareness can bring some different ways of looking at things. ![]() But, it is one of the simple ideas that I think makes a lot of sense, and to understand where you are on in the cycle during any given ‘drama’ enables you to get yourself out of it. This theory has been around for nearly 50 years and is used daily in the fields of ‘transactional analysis’, and the study and understanding of social and professional behaviours. Even when the conflict is finished, everyone of those players is likely to harbour some resentment – even if their short-term emotional needs feel sated. It is a rotating pattern of behaviours that, ultimately, serves no-one. In the course of a conflict, the players will move around the three corners of the triangle – first shouting the odds, then feeling got-at when they are challenged, and then rescuing their former adversaries when they then go on to feel vulnerable. The important things about these roles, is that they are not fixed to an individual. The Rescuer appears to be The Victim’s saviour from The Persecutor, but actually cements the others in their negative behaviours – almost giving them permission to stay as the bully or the bullied as it makes everyone feel that they have a purpose. The Rescuer: a big ball of guilt, who needs someone to help, because when you’re the hero to others then you don’t have to deal with your own feelings of anxiety or displacement.If The Victim role feels natural to you, then you need to seek out The Persecutor (if you haven’t already got one) but also The Rescuer. You know where you are when you are The Victim, and it’s easy to seek the pity of others. This is obviously a position of anxiety for most, but psychologically it can actually often bring some comfort. The Victim feels hard-done-by, got-at, powerless, ashamed, unable to do anything. ![]() The Victim: The Victim takes the brunt of The Persecutor’s wrath.In order to have their needs met, they require The Victim someone onto whom they can project their irritation. They are probably angry, accusative, inflexible and feeling very righteous. The Persecutor: happy to allocate blame and to ensure that other players know they are in the wrong.Karpman suggests that in each conflict there are three main roles: The consequential objective of each role is just to have its own needs met – even if temporarily – in order to feel justified in its rationale/behaviour/feeling. Dr Stephen Karpman’s 1968 idea, was that conflict needs players and players need roles.
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